tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-338581633491322703.post5468286395550709582..comments2023-05-09T06:00:19.599-04:00Comments on Autistic Hoya — A blog by Lydia X. Z. Brown (2011-2020): 15 Things You Should Never Say To An AutisticLydia Brownhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13484063914873791571noreply@blogger.comBlogger350125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-338581633491322703.post-20956495340947488112022-12-25T23:37:33.602-05:002022-12-25T23:37:33.602-05:00I have NVLD too. It's frustrating because ther...I have NVLD too. It's frustrating because there isn't enough research. I am just now starting to realize I manipulate conversations and my verbal ropes can annoy people. I'm 27. It took me this long. I think people sugarcoat things sometimes for me, always complenting my work. And sometimes walk eggshells around me. And avoid telling me their feelings so my mental health is ok, but Haileyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04988058673500864005noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-338581633491322703.post-49081660859258098962022-12-25T09:06:12.985-05:002022-12-25T09:06:12.985-05:00My brother Matthew also has autism. So some of thi...My brother Matthew also has autism. So some of this can apply to him too.Haileyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04988058673500864005noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-338581633491322703.post-66147345968556999312022-12-25T09:04:47.743-05:002022-12-25T09:04:47.743-05:00This list can also apply to people with Non-verbal...This list can also apply to people with Non-verbal learning disorder. I'll be honest though. I'd rather have people talk to me about their feelings then for them to walk on eggshells. (Not that I'm saying people do, I'm just not good at wording sometimes.)Haileyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04988058673500864005noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-338581633491322703.post-2197262763190499132021-03-24T15:33:38.102-04:002021-03-24T15:33:38.102-04:00I am on the autism spectrum myself and I find marr...I am on the autism spectrum myself and I find marriage to be totally pointless because I am easily annoyed by other people. Irritability has a serious negative impact on relationships and I don’t know if anyone could put up with me or if I could put up with them Leanna Boylehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00202312626918173645noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-338581633491322703.post-29560404983348747952019-01-17T08:43:15.788-05:002019-01-17T08:43:15.788-05:00Well we won't get them to respect us by clarif...Well we won't get them to respect us by clarifying that we are people every single time we talk about our disabilities, if you are talking about that. An example: I am a person with autism. That sounds like saying:"Now hear me out, I might be autistic, but I'm still a person, therefor please respect me." People should know by themselves that we a persons, we don't have to Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-338581633491322703.post-9970713692571512442019-01-17T08:31:46.760-05:002019-01-17T08:31:46.760-05:00NoNoAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-338581633491322703.post-82292098106869693472019-01-17T08:01:25.196-05:002019-01-17T08:01:25.196-05:00What's sad about calling someone who they are....What's sad about calling someone who they are. Do you think I would talk offense to you calling me German? It's just who we are. And no you can't just turn neurotypical. You are born autistic, you die autistic. Only thing that might change is that you can hide your autistic traits better. But that's just normal, everyone learns what they can and can't do in their life.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-338581633491322703.post-72941400948969387982018-04-06T18:08:49.903-04:002018-04-06T18:08:49.903-04:00As someone who has hfASD and old enough (57) to ha...As someone who has hfASD and old enough (57) to have served in the USMC before they knew about this genetic flaw.My oath was "To uphold and defend our constitution against all threats foreign and domestic. I find it disturbing that people have this "you shouldn't say that" mentality as it goes against the first amendment. I say ask any question to anyone you like as long as it Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-338581633491322703.post-63607171514617384532017-12-10T18:42:25.525-05:002017-12-10T18:42:25.525-05:00Most people are stupid when it comes to any person...Most people are stupid when it comes to any person with a disability. People are rude and say extremely hurtful things to all people with disabilities. This is not an excuse. We, as a society, should educate all people to accept others as people first, not as disabled first. It's like learning about a difficult culture, and not offending that other culture. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-338581633491322703.post-49613535129842985602017-10-15T08:24:27.616-04:002017-10-15T08:24:27.616-04:00I'd say the important thing is to presume comp...I'd say the important thing is to presume competence and address it the way you would with another friend, and/or in the way you usually interact with him. You can offer clarification if he asks for it or suggests through what he says that he doesn't get it, but having been on the receiving end of "I know you're autistic, so let me explain things in terms you can understand,&Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07331145210782053830noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-338581633491322703.post-78560743940246765152017-10-13T17:35:29.364-04:002017-10-13T17:35:29.364-04:00I have been looking where to find a answer to anot...I have been looking where to find a answer to another question. I have a friend who is autistic. Sometimes he has trouble getting certain social cues and will say things that could be considered offensive said by a nuerotypical person. Because I know him and how he is I do not get offended but I am debating whether or not I should speak to him about a conversation we had recently. He said Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-338581633491322703.post-75345355756054839132017-08-11T16:03:25.846-04:002017-08-11T16:03:25.846-04:00There simply is no guarantee. :( My daughter had...There simply is no guarantee. :( My daughter had decided against having children because she doesn't want to take the risk. She says she'd hate to have a child go through what she did growing up. Best wishes to you.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11129517794200745489noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-338581633491322703.post-35911569630664820382017-06-12T06:48:45.005-04:002017-06-12T06:48:45.005-04:00Hi Kikoyora
I'm just reading your message now,...Hi Kikoyora<br />I'm just reading your message now, for the first time, almost 4 years after it was originally posted December 5,2013 @ 3:26a.m.<br />Just to let you know that I am with my husband for 32 years now. Married for 27 years. He is an Autistic person, and we have 3 children. Age 23 yrs, 19 yrs, and 16 yrs. All are very beautiful, highly intelligent, and very healthy children. <br Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-338581633491322703.post-1253323130163250842017-05-01T13:13:14.695-04:002017-05-01T13:13:14.695-04:00How about stuff like, "Autism is just an excu...How about stuff like, "Autism is just an excuse for bad behavior, it doesn't really exist." Or, "you are just being disrespectful, defiant, lazy, selfish, etc." Leanne Stronghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02051946966232697666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-338581633491322703.post-66518574477936923702017-04-01T01:06:18.609-04:002017-04-01T01:06:18.609-04:00"You're not like my child; you can write ..."You're not like my child; you can write a blog post. My child will never be able to write a blog post."<br /><br />The biggest problem I have with that statement is the low expectations of their child. I met a mother who was convinced that her *3 year old* was low functioning and would never be able to do a pile of things. Children grow. They grow more if you presume potential and Ettinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12391427859178500937noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-338581633491322703.post-90011447981175796502017-01-26T19:14:06.165-05:002017-01-26T19:14:06.165-05:00I like all of those tips.I like all of those tips.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-338581633491322703.post-57561065657317196442016-11-23T06:51:44.679-05:002016-11-23T06:51:44.679-05:00I am thirty eight and have 2 boys and a lovely wif...I am thirty eight and have 2 boys and a lovely wife. Through my older son I found out that I have strong autistic treats as well. I always thought of the state we are in as a gift from nature. I am very talkative that is how I tackle my problems talking them through. People look at me not all of them like if I was strange, but in my opinion there is nothing more beautiful than the honesty of the Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11577434532611712658noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-338581633491322703.post-2858249542624117622016-10-24T19:40:23.420-04:002016-10-24T19:40:23.420-04:00As an aspie, I actually love being told I pass. Fo...As an aspie, I actually love being told I pass. For me personally I'd replace that one with "Asperger's isn't real", though fortunately no one actually says that. Then again, most of my friends are allistic and don't know about that particular issue with the DSM. (Apparently the reason given was about "available help/resources" instead of scientific accuracy...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-338581633491322703.post-76856856400903359672016-09-16T14:22:17.647-04:002016-09-16T14:22:17.647-04:00You are absolutely right. I'm autistic and agr...You are absolutely right. I'm autistic and agree with you entirely. As has been addressed by several others, this is a list of how this specific person wants to be treated but is presented as guidelines as to how all NTs should interact with autistics. It's patronizing and symptomatic of our current culutral climate's obsession with subjectivity and identity at the expense of social Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-338581633491322703.post-43056827298536920652016-08-01T12:12:46.709-04:002016-08-01T12:12:46.709-04:0016. Identity-first language
I am not autistic. I ...16. Identity-first language<br /><br />I am not autistic. I have autism.<br /><br />(Also, Google is silly; my name is actually Carl.)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-338581633491322703.post-70570024899467620892016-06-11T21:41:27.142-04:002016-06-11T21:41:27.142-04:00I'm married, we have a daughter and she doesn&...I'm married, we have a daughter and she doesn't have autism. :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10889425227821450503noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-338581633491322703.post-80018388984179211642016-06-11T01:18:54.870-04:002016-06-11T01:18:54.870-04:00There is no need for his response period. He is tr...There is no need for his response period. He is trying to demean people to make himself feel better.RMiles95https://www.blogger.com/profile/06469159535958068783noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-338581633491322703.post-31142911089871778492016-05-12T15:27:27.076-04:002016-05-12T15:27:27.076-04:00I don't like how you say "An Autistic&quo...I don't like how you say "An Autistic". That offends me, and most likely everyone else with autism spectrum disorder. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-338581633491322703.post-40363217063812424472016-05-04T19:14:26.884-04:002016-05-04T19:14:26.884-04:00Cool, so these are all the things I would want to ...Cool, so these are all the things I would want to ask (okay, minus some). Me asking you what it is like, after you telling me you have a condition, is me being curious without wanting to impose my ideas on you. Telling me not to say or ask certain things is not considering MY side. I am trying to communicate with you, get to know you. I don't think we should shut down all conversation and Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10300484583326956519noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-338581633491322703.post-35196130390676204632016-03-19T16:40:57.158-04:002016-03-19T16:40:57.158-04:00Autistic man blogs from prison: paulmodrowski.blog...Autistic man blogs from prison: paulmodrowski.blogspot.comAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com