tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-338581633491322703.post5179805893489805427..comments2023-05-09T06:00:19.599-04:00Comments on Autistic Hoya — A blog by Lydia X. Z. Brown (2011-2020): Having Loud HandsLydia Brownhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13484063914873791571noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-338581633491322703.post-31076827550625606332014-08-22T05:35:14.810-04:002014-08-22T05:35:14.810-04:00I'm no expert but the nail clipping thing soun...I'm no expert but the nail clipping thing sounds like OCD. I have OCD. I get very anxious if I can not wash my hands, don't like using other toilets, etc. <br /><br />The thing about OCD is you might realize it's irrational and keep doing it, or you might justify it with some not-really-logical reason and decide it makes sense. If she's giving you the clippers, she knows it&#Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-338581633491322703.post-32754584476183751542013-10-24T22:21:37.754-04:002013-10-24T22:21:37.754-04:00First of all, try being an Autistic person. We...First of all, try being an Autistic person. We're speaking from the ultimate experience - you've lived with us, we've BEEN us (and if you asked many of our parents, caregivers, etc. if they thought we were "high functioning" enough to have the kind of behavioral freedom advocated here, they would've said no too in many cases, past and sometimes present). We're SMNnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-338581633491322703.post-17402165279609631452013-10-24T21:35:41.365-04:002013-10-24T21:35:41.365-04:00I am the mother of an autistic adult woman who wil...I am the mother of an autistic adult woman who will be 40 in December. She still lives at home with me, her dad, and two siblings who have Down syndrome. We have eight children in our family, all adopted. Our daughter with autism, Katrina, was adopted by us when she was seven. She is pretty independent at self care. She speaks in short phrases or in single words to make her needs known and Marienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-338581633491322703.post-25869437815995459892012-01-23T14:05:00.339-05:002012-01-23T14:05:00.339-05:00Jenn,
I want to first address how you opted to cl...Jenn,<br /><br />I want to first address how you opted to close your comment before delving into your situation.<br /><br />We obviously know you are a parent of an autistic child or else you wouldn't be talking about your autistic son. To me, I have always seen this argument used to silence Autistic adults as if they don't know what it's like to be a parent. This is also a problem Melody Latimerhttp://www.asparenting.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-338581633491322703.post-18508394530902916712012-01-23T13:57:49.326-05:002012-01-23T13:57:49.326-05:00Suppressing what comes naturally causes intense da...Suppressing what comes naturally causes intense damage down the line. Trying to please people by looking like what they want you to be, that hurts us, even if it makes our parents feel better.<br /><br />And that is why my hands will be loud. Because I am who I am meant to be, just as your child is.Neurodivergent Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02815685510033244185noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-338581633491322703.post-24394266577580948412012-01-23T13:37:30.972-05:002012-01-23T13:37:30.972-05:00I am an Autistic parent. I would not tell my child...I am an Autistic parent. I would not tell my child to use "quiet hands" as that is targeting an Autistic-specific observable characteristic. I do hope you endeavor to determine what the "fit" is about. If he actually FEELS calmer, maybe that's helping him. If he's just trying to stuff his physical actions because he knows he's been told "quiet hands," Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-338581633491322703.post-83047845723823514462012-01-23T07:07:30.733-05:002012-01-23T07:07:30.733-05:00I did want to add that I think your blog is very w...I did want to add that I think your blog is very well-thought out and insightful and added it to my blogs I read list on my own blog :)Jennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00430436654780840205noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-338581633491322703.post-36020643469750378822012-01-23T07:04:49.549-05:002012-01-23T07:04:49.549-05:00hmm.... I wasn't sure how to respond. I vented...hmm.... I wasn't sure how to respond. I vented a bit on Facebook. Thought about it. Pondered it. And then came back and re-read your post with a fresh head this morning. Then I decided to comment. <br /><br />I've told my autistic son to use "quiet hands" many times. Not to tell him to be less autistic, but as a means to tell him to be quiet. Just like I would tell my younger Jennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00430436654780840205noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-338581633491322703.post-51764084088714655402012-01-21T11:22:03.666-05:002012-01-21T11:22:03.666-05:00It's not possible to watch that video without ...It's not possible to watch that video without feeling uplifted.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com