tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-338581633491322703.post1898955709526064920..comments2023-05-09T06:00:19.599-04:00Comments on Autistic Hoya — A blog by Lydia X. Z. Brown (2011-2020): How to be an Ally for People with PTSDLydia Brownhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13484063914873791571noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-338581633491322703.post-35876278158633697012014-01-08T23:52:55.883-05:002014-01-08T23:52:55.883-05:00Just so you know, the current DSM does not require...Just so you know, the current DSM does not require a certain weight to be DX'd with anorexia. The previous one did, but they changed it.<br /><br />PTSD actually requires experiencing or seeing a trauma or traumas that the person perceives as threatening life or threatening the integrity of life. That covers a lot of ground. What people perceive that way varies a lot from person to personAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-338581633491322703.post-51109776642216978622013-10-07T00:10:13.339-04:002013-10-07T00:10:13.339-04:00I understand how there can be resistance to the id...I understand how there can be resistance to the idea of treating survivors as delicate creatures in need of special treatment. I interpreted the article as saying it's important to practice good consent and sensitivity with all people, regardless of survivor status--the suggestions highlighted in the article are useful in all relationships with all people--but that these things are especiallyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-338581633491322703.post-16496877097475568012013-10-03T02:04:45.100-04:002013-10-03T02:04:45.100-04:00I can understand this, but as the article states, ...I can understand this, but as the article states, everyone is in a different stage in their healing process. I think it's good to play it safe at first before the ally knows what the survivor's boundaries are and whether they are subject to change.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-338581633491322703.post-82098832200372690182013-10-03T01:55:07.668-04:002013-10-03T01:55:07.668-04:00uh the DSM is far from perfect and creating concre...uh the DSM is far from perfect and creating concrete requirements just prevents people from getting help. It's like how you can't be diagnosed with Anorexia unless you're in a certain weight range, even though you have to be suffering from the illness for a long time before you reach that weight. And that entire time you don't have a diagnosis, so you can't get treatment. ThisAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-338581633491322703.post-53516249305324079982013-09-17T09:43:23.929-04:002013-09-17T09:43:23.929-04:00I have chronic PTSD from three acute events, one h...I have chronic PTSD from three acute events, one happening in childhood, one as a young teen, and one as an adult. Almost none of the ally advise here would feel useful or appropriate to me. I don't want trigger warnings, I don't want to be asked for consent every time I am touched, I don't want to be constantly monitored by allies to see if I'm okay with conversations or Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-338581633491322703.post-86017482497870649632013-09-11T14:57:05.129-04:002013-09-11T14:57:05.129-04:00Thanks for these! I'm going to print them out ...Thanks for these! I'm going to print them out and put them in my house's booklet of allyship documents, as some of the people in my house have some trouble with understanding triggers. -Quentin MastenAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-338581633491322703.post-64421649275276877112013-09-10T00:16:37.023-04:002013-09-10T00:16:37.023-04:00Thanks for ignoring all but the first sentence of ...Thanks for ignoring all but the first sentence of my comment. Or thanks for refusing to look up recent research that proves you wrong. Or thanks for being super obstinate. Whatever.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-338581633491322703.post-56108083825713036332013-09-01T20:15:18.364-04:002013-09-01T20:15:18.364-04:00The DEFINITION of PTSD from a medical perspective ...The DEFINITION of PTSD from a medical perspective REQUIRES that t include a level of trauma significantly outside what would be considered normal. Bullying can leave lots of emotional scars, but it does not cause PTSD. How about asking a psychiatrist what PTSD is? It's not us saying that it's an "exclusive club." It's us acknowledging that it's a medical condition and Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-338581633491322703.post-24804427862553354592013-09-01T15:29:03.052-04:002013-09-01T15:29:03.052-04:00Also, people under stress don't always look un...Also, people under stress don't always look under stress or talk about those stresses/stressors. Looking for a definitive 'indicator' is impossible.<br />As the below Anon says:<br /><br />2) I'd much rather find out in retrospect that I was taken advantage of than find out that I didn't accommodate them in a way they truly needed.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-338581633491322703.post-35664660107820707862013-09-01T15:17:40.403-04:002013-09-01T15:17:40.403-04:00Getting on disability was horrifying, triggering, ...Getting on disability was horrifying, triggering, and took years. I probably wouldn't have survived it without the emotional support that many other people do not have.<br />I had to completely expose myself to total strangers, knowing that their job is to assume I'm "milking the system". I know a number of people with medically quantifiable disabilities who are unable to get onAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-338581633491322703.post-11131212408922627112013-08-31T13:24:13.457-04:002013-08-31T13:24:13.457-04:00Lydia, thank you so much for these recent articles...Lydia, thank you so much for these recent articles on Allyship, they're incredibly informative and insightful. Thanks to your awesome friend!Meara O'Malleynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-338581633491322703.post-14404800297600213712013-08-31T02:26:15.531-04:002013-08-31T02:26:15.531-04:00Your comment informs me that you are unfamiliar wi...Your comment informs me that you are unfamiliar with how difficult it is to get government aid when you have a disability (ESPECIALLY for a mental illness), since you seem to think someone without a disability can get it easily. Getting government aid for a disability requires exhausting levels of official documentation of your disability, and almost everyone is rejected on their first Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-338581633491322703.post-68914590058931841322013-08-29T23:14:02.578-04:002013-08-29T23:14:02.578-04:00Why do so many people with PTSD treat it like some...Why do so many people with PTSD treat it like some kind of exclusive club? There's ample evidence to suggest that the persistent fear and anxiety resulting from "playground bullying" and racism/homophobia/fatphobia can cause PTSD. Look it up.<br /><br />As if it really matters: I was never bullied. I was raped. I would never want to hear that I can't have PTSD because it didn&#Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-338581633491322703.post-55756972912998592812013-08-29T09:18:47.945-04:002013-08-29T09:18:47.945-04:00Anon Aug 29 12:26 AM -- there are always going to ...Anon Aug 29 12:26 AM -- there are always going to be a few people who milk it to the max in any group of people. They are usually a tiny minority. I generally give people the benefit of the doubt for two reasons.<br />1) I'm not their mental health professional. Not really my place to judge.<br />2) I'd much rather find out in retrospect that I was taken advantage of than find out that I Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-338581633491322703.post-83089137182565490182013-08-29T00:26:07.973-04:002013-08-29T00:26:07.973-04:00What do you do about people who claim to have PTSD...What do you do about people who claim to have PTSD but are extremely inconsistent and suspect about it. If you know a person who uses their PTSD to milk the government of money by going to school and receiving disability for their PTSD, dropping out at the end of the semester and only paying back a fraction of what they got (repeatedly). If they start claiming new and new things are triggers atAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-338581633491322703.post-23090218126171003292013-08-28T22:01:12.719-04:002013-08-28T22:01:12.719-04:00Anon Aug 28 12:57 PM -- I know people who have PTS...Anon Aug 28 12:57 PM -- I know people who have PTSD from severe bullying from being gay. Playground bullying could cause PTSD...if it was really just abuse under another name.<br /><br />Each person's story is different. I totally agree that not every little thing can be considered traumatic and it's important for us not to belittle survivors by lumping everyone in with survivors. That Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-338581633491322703.post-40612324803487996672013-08-28T16:20:27.378-04:002013-08-28T16:20:27.378-04:00I'd add: Don't appropriate the term trigge...I'd add: Don't appropriate the term trigger, trigger does not mean "the mention of this makes me feel emotional", unless you have PTSD, something like feeling sad when reading something sad does not mean you're triggered, and for goodness sakes don't try to argue that Trigger warnings are unnecessary to people who have PTSD because you're "triggered" but &Eightdiverginghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13261746282487709165noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-338581633491322703.post-85288485841491116112013-08-28T12:57:04.871-04:002013-08-28T12:57:04.871-04:00Disagreed. The very definition of PTSD includes th...Disagreed. The very definition of PTSD includes that the trauma is outside the range of what would normally be experienced and included a real or perceived threat to one's own safety or to another person's. I don't think you're in any position to argue against every medical institution in the world about what IS and ISN'T PTSD.<br /><br />Being called a fatty or a fudgepacker Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-338581633491322703.post-71366082555949715022013-08-26T22:22:33.784-04:002013-08-26T22:22:33.784-04:00I just wanted to clarify--I by no means qualify ve...I just wanted to clarify--I by no means qualify verbal or emotional abuse, or oppressive behaviors of any kind, as a small trauma. (Unless people qualify those as such for themselves.) By small traumas I mean things that in the "eyes of the beholder" were not as traumatic. So you get to define how it affected you, period. If you yourself felt traumatized but not that heavily traumatizedAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-338581633491322703.post-50186095935845596172013-08-26T21:39:54.646-04:002013-08-26T21:39:54.646-04:00"PTSD can happen to anyone who has lived thro..."PTSD can happen to anyone who has lived through trauma. Life-threatening or soul-crushing trauma. Not small traumas where you fall, get up, and return to your sense of safety--Big Trauma, the kind of Trauma where you fall, and when you try to get up, there is no ground beneath you to even sit on."<br />I completely disagree with this, there are no small traumas, all traumatic Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com